"Clinical psychologist Meg Jay has a bold message for twenty-somethings: 'Contrary to popular belief, your 20s are not a throwaway decade.' In this provocative talk, Jay says that just because marriage, work and kids are happening later in life, doesn't mean you can't start planning now. She gives 3 pieces of advice for how twenty-somethings can re-claim adulthood in the defining decade of their lives."

Counseling for folks in their 20s and 30s.

I mean, let's face it. We live in a very different time than our parents did. The world is so fast-paced. Technology is changing our world so quickly that it can be hard to keep up. Ever since social media, texting, and online dating came on line, our social lives, jobs, and relationships are more complex and nuanced than ever. Seriously, it can be difficult to silence the ringers on our glowing rectangles and just listen to ourselves. As if we didn’t already have insecurities, now they become magnified as we’re pinged second-by-second about how awesome everybody else’s lives are. It’s harder than ever to find space to just be.

Transitions.

When we're in our 20s and 30s life is about many transitions. For many of us, we are tasked for the first time with asking major questions about what we want for our lives. Some of the questions that pop up are:

• Who do I want to be? What are my values?
• What do I want to do with my life? What is my calling? What is the balance between passion and pragmatism?
• How do I know if I want to spend the rest of my life with someone?
• Do I want children and when? How will I know?

When you explore these and other questions, you have the awesome opportunity to build the life that you want. Maybe the life you'll build is one in which work, love, your brain and your body are all clued in and work together instead of pulling in different directions. This time in your life is a pivotal time when the things you do – and the things you don’t - will have such a huge effect across years and even generations to come. Getting yourself into counseling will help guide your way through this time.
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We'll have an awesome time working together if you are interested enough to look at yourself and your patterns in relationships and work. When you get into therapy at this time in your life, you can really improve your chances of creating the relationships and life that you are aiming to have.
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I want to get to know you and help you with whatever challenges you face as you navigate your 20s and 30s!

Get in tune with yourself.

One thing I know is that it can be so overwhelming to listen to ourselves and to know what we need when it comes to all of the change and challenges we face. I'll help you learn to hear your own voice through the noise. I will help you listen to yourself even when the voices of your friends, parents, and Social seem louder than your own. Will you let me help you learn to find stillness even when the world feels like it’s moving at the speed of light?

Dating.

Oftentimes dating comes with a connection to fantasy and reality smashing together. It has a tendency to create confusion and difficulty in certain situations. Many people who are currently dating have tons of thoughts about trust, settling for less than what is truly wanted, or why they are broken up with. These everyday stressors can negatively impact your dating life and can even put the breaks on finding the relationship that you really want. When you come to counseling to work through the challenges of dating, you have the opportunity to check-in with yourself and find the answers to these questions.
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I'd love the opportunity to help you identify and overcome walls that you may no know are getting in your way to finding or maintaining a relationship. It's so cool when we're able to bring awareness to those walls and begin the healing process. And guess what? When you move toward healing and wholeness in yourself, you will begin to experience your dating life in a radically new way.
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Trying to find the right person can seem like torture at times. When we can’t seem to find a match or when we move from one failed relationship to another, we begin to question if something is wrong with us and it can become difficult to trust ourselves to navigate the complexity of the dating world. I will help you learn to trust yourself, develop confidence in yourself, and overcome the obstacles that are getting in the way of love. I'll help you learn practical exercises to develop confidence as well as help you explore the deep, underlying issues that need healing. You'll learn to become free, confident, and grounded within yourself so that you can find a partner who can meet your needs and you can meet theirs.

Let's hang out.

We'll hang out in a healthy, relaxed atmosphere that’ll allow you to change certain habits and understand common behaviors. There's so much pressure that comes with being an adult that it is hard to remember who you are underneath all the stuff that is expected of you. We all know that you're trying your best and we understand that sometimes it feels like whenever you try, you run into another obstacle.

You don't want to blame the world for your struggles. You knew making it on your own would be a transition and that there would be ups and downs. But you didn’t expect to have a hard time making friends and keeping them. You never thought dating and being in relationships would be so difficult, and you for real didn’t expect to have such a challenge succeeding.
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When you’re honest with yourself, you can acknowledge that you're getting by right now, but you know adulthood can be so much better and I can help you get there.

​Who benefits most from young adult counseling?

• You are experiencing a major life transition and feel lost about which options are best for you.
• You’re looking for meaning in this new stage of life and can’t seem to identify what is important to you going forward.
• You want help establishing significant connections with friends and romantic partners.
• You are invested in improving your quality of life and establishing a foundation for years to come.
• You want to set goals for the future and reach them with ease.