"I could never do what you do. How do you listen to problems all day?"
This is a question that I get all of the time. But you know what? I don’t see my job as listening to problems at all. Rather, I spend my time being witness to resilience.
I hear painful stories. I see pain. I feel it, too. Sometimes, after I hear a story I need to close my door and cry a little bit.
But, I also see the beauty of life. The strength of human resiliency. The need to find acceptance and offer grace in the unpredictability of it all.
I don't see my job as listening to problems as all. Rather, I spend my time being witness to resilience.
Each day, I get to see how people can change. I get to watch as they recognize unhelpful patterns and shift them. I also see how people in many ways often stay the same. I see them sitting in my office as the sweet child with dreams and where fun and joy can pop up, almost unexpectedly.
In my job, I get to also be a student. I am taught great lessons every day by my clients. I am regularly reminded to count my blessings. But, also, to grieve my losses.
I am offered the beautiful opportunity of my own struggles being normalized. I get to see what life is truly like for most people behind closed doors.
This offers me permission to be human. It also grants me the great reminder to never forget that other people are human, too.
My job is a great honor. And whether we connect in my office or through here, I am inspired by you.
I want to share with you something that I know from getting to know so many people so intimately:
You’re not the only one. Someone else has faced something similar. There are other couples out there that are struggling in the same way you are.
Other individuals feeling similar feelings that you feel.
People all over the world worrying, grieving, and crying, and just trying really really hard. And also surviving and thriving.
You’re not alone in your struggles. And, at the same time, you’re beautifully unique and the world needs you and your experiences, perspectives, and presence.