Starting couples therapy can be scary. As a couples therapist, I’ve heard complaints from couples who’d been ready to make their relationships better, only to end up in the office of a well-meaning but ultimately unhelpful therapist.
I have the privilege to work with many brave couples who work super hard to save their relationships. As a therapist, I find couples work to be very satisfying because of the dedication required of partners. A lot of couples begin counseling in distress and crisis. While that's sad in and of itself, some of the saddest stories I’ve heard involved couples having experienced poor advice or guidance from previous therapists.
Below are a few of the potentially harmful things a therapist can do with a couple facing serious relationship challenges: